friends?

it's funny to me how much friendships can change within the course of a year. there are some friends that stay constant and faithful to us and us to them. there are some "friends" who become mere acquaintances after a few months. there are some friends that we try to keep up with, but we just don't have that much in common with any more.

after spending a semester abroad, I thought that I would stay in touch with most of my friends from there. I thought that the people I traveled with all the time would stay my friends. some are, others aren't. and I think that it's okay. I wish I could say that I wanted to stay super close friends with every single person I knew there, but that's just not true.

my best friend while abroad now lives somewhere far away from me. we still skype and share memories, but the conversations have begun to dwindle.

without that common location, it's difficult to find things to say. our conversations have become so infrequent that I don't even know where to begin. what do I say? how do I summarize my life? how does she explain hers?

so are we still friends? I think so. I know that if she were to visit, we would have a lot of fun together. but it's different now.

I think that's the biggest thing I need to remember: friendships are dynamic. they are always changing slightly. no person stays the exact same from day to day, and so no relationship between two people can stay the exact same from day to day.

friendships do change, but so do we. and sometimes, the change is a good thing.